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What is a first look?
A first look is a staged moment during a wedding day when the soon-to-be-married couple sees each other for the first time in their wedding attire. This intimate event is captured by a photographer and allows the couple to share a private, emotional experience before the ceremony begins.
First looks have gained popularity in recent years, providing an opportunity for couples to calm their nerves and create cherished memories together on their big day.
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What does a first look entail?
The first look is more than a trend – it’s definitely here to stay. The typical first look involves one partner (traditionally the groom), being positioned away from the bride in a beautiful, private location. The other partner (traditionally the bride), is then brought out while the groom is facing away.
The bride then taps the groom on the shoulder, he spins around – and laughter, tears and much emotion ensue.
Another first look trend, that I would recommend in particular for same-sex couples, is standing back to back then when the photographer gives the command, turn around and see each other for the first time.
There are many different ways of having a first look – basically the only limit is your imagination! What I’ll focus on in this article are the specific reasons for and against having one.
The advantages of having a first look
Let’s first check out some Instagram posts I’ve published on this subject which summarize everything very concisely!
1. A first look allows you to have more photos and a backup plan
When you have a first look, you will end up with more photos of the two of you – these are the ones you’ll want to frame! When doing a first look, we will go straight into a mini-portrait session. This is really good to have under our belts. Why?
Because as the day wears on, there is always a chance we lose the opportunity to do a full photo session. The first look also acts as a backup plan, because if there is a snag, there will be other options later in the day such as during cocktail hour or even during dinner.
2. You will be able to get family formals done before the ceremony
Another great benefit and the reason I suggest this to my couples is that family photos will be done straight after the first look. This is a benefit because it means that after your ceremony you’ll actually be able to enjoy cocktail hour, rather than using that time to do formal family photos.
Cocktail hour is really the number one time for those gorgeous candid photos you’ve seen – everyone’s having a great time, people are mingling, drinks are flowing. And all your guests are there to talk to YOU!
Prior to the ceremony is a less chaotic time, where it’s easier to step away for half an hour or so. Guests haven’t arrived yet, so use this time of preparation to get the big photo moments out of the way!
3. Alleviates nerves and allows you to center yourselves in each other
The wedding day is a blur of emotions. Allow yourself this short time to feel connected and share a few words before the ceremony itself. Sure, there is something beautiful about seeing each other for the first time in front of all your favorite people, but it can be overwhelming for some. Particularly those who dislike being the center of attention.
This time of connection can be an important opportunity to say a few words to each other, remembering you’re marrying your best friend.
4. Hair and makeup is freshly applied and everyone looks their best
You’ve spent a lot of money on professional hair, makeup, bouquet and dress. Wouldn’t it be nice to capture all of that while it’s still fresh – no makeup smudges, no wilting boutonnieres, the dress still completely clean? With a first look, we can do that.
Just be sure to have your HMUA stay the first look is complete, so you can look fresh going into the ceremony.
5. The first look allows you to steal away some alone time – when you need it most
You don’t need me to tell you, but the wedding day will go by so fast! Moments for true connection between you and your partner when it’s just two of you, can be pretty sparse.
Without a first look, by the time the ceremony rolls around, you may have spent quite a bit of time apart from each other! Probably spending that night in different places so you can be up early and ready to prepare for the wedding day – GO, GO, GO!
Times of calm during this part of the day are relatively few and far between.
So, embrace every opportunity you have to be unforced, unposed, and just let yourselves release all the nerves, excitement and joy of what you’re going to embark on. Trust me, it will make for not only amazing photos but meaningful memories.
Disadvantages of having a first look
1. It’s less traditional
If tradition matters to your wedding values, you may prefer to see each other for the first time when you walk down the aisle. And it’s not necessarily purely about tradition, but the purity of that moment when you catch sight of each other and all your favorite people are there to witness the tears and the joy.
However, bear in mind, the moment when you walk down and aisle and see your partner will still be just as special, even if you’ve already seen each other prior.
If you do this, however, prepare to invest in a second photographer who can capture the face of the partner standing at the altar, while the lead photographer captures the partner walking up the aisle. One photographer can feasibly do both, but for large or awkward spaces sometimes it just isn’t possible.
As a photographer I sometimes spend quite a bit of my time and energy trying to keep the members of the couple apart – energy that could have been spent taking photos!
2. It may involve an earlier start time
To do a first look usually involves allowing time also for couples’ portraits plus family portraits (and even wedding party pictures), all before the ceremony. This may mean an earlier start time.
You will definitely need to plan ahead if you want to do a first look. Make sure your photographer and family members are clear on the plan. Chat with your HMUA about how long everything will take. You would potentially need to get up very early, so that’s a decision you’ll need to make.
3. You may need hair and makeup to stay longer for touch-ups
As mentioned in one of my points above, it makes sense to have your makeup artist stay a bit extra to fix your makeup after the first look. There will almost certainly be tears and definitely smudged lipstick!
You may get away with a touch-up kit that most makeup artists provide, but make sure you have some sort of plan in place so you look as fresh as can be for the ceremony.
4. There is a risk guests could see you during the first look as they arrive
With the smaller weddings that are now de rigueur, there’s a possibility that guests may sneak a peek of you if we’re photographing while they’re walking in. And believe me, there are always some guests that arrive early – at every wedding! Some couples prefer to be sequestered away prior to guest arrival.
People walking in might bother some marriers, or be a distraction, but it isn’t normally a big deal for me. Folks understand that you’re in the middle of your photo session and will say hi and then take their places.
5. Lighting isn’t ideal during the time the first look normally happens
Time of day plays a huge role in the way the finished pictures turn out. For most wedding days, the first look and family photos etc, would take place when the sun is highest overhead. That’s not the best time of day to take photos – the best time is as close as you can get to sunrise or sunset.
Harsh light from the midday/early afternoon causes harsh shadows under the eyes and people squinting into the camera. A photographer can only do so much to mitigate these effects. They will be largely at the mercy of the specifics of the venue.
Don’t worry though, photographers can normally get creative and find some shade or position folks with the sun behind them. We are used to dealing on the fly.
So that just about wraps it up. Hopefully this has given you plenty to think about when it comes to deciding whether to have a first look or not. Before I sign off, I will just add that the most important thing is what makes you feel comfortable.
Though I’ve tried to be as unbiased as I can, as a photographer, it’s in my nature to steer you towards optimizing for photography. There are almost countless other factors that come into play when it comes to making this decision.
Whatever you decide – and even if you want to do something completely different! – the big thing is to get married that way that suits you best. Some couples get ready together. Others want to do a ‘mock’ first look, or dress up in a novelty outfit just for fun. Some want to hear each other’s voices and hold hands, but not to see each other.
It’s completely your call! Ultimately, a good photographer will be able to get good photos, whatever the timeframe they have to work with. It’s your wedding day, not a photoshoot.
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